The Ultimate Way to Become More Interesting to Others…

January 10, 2012 in A Better Way of Business, A Life Not Wasted with 3 Comments

…is to be interested in others.

I just saw a post on Twitter that had a headline from a magazine that went something like “10 Ways to be More Interesting to Others”.

I have to be honest, I didn’t even click on the link. I don’t need to.

If you want to become more interesting to other people, you need to first become interested in other people. Once you start putting forth the time and effort to find out about other people you will find that other people are amazingly more interested in you.

Stop. Think about it.

How many of your closest friends have spent time being interested in you? How many of them have you spent time being interested in?

Will this work in every case? Not at all. Sometimes your interest is completely unwanted (think stalker) and unreciprocated (think user). That’s just part of life (and sometimes it’s just because the other person never learned to be interested in others).

But I’m confident that the more you become interested in other people, the more you will find others are interested in you.

Don’t believe? Think I’m full of crap?

Take some time and read Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People.

~Ivan

  • Anonymous

    Yes, it always starts with ourselves, And that’s a great read by the way…

  • Anonymous

    So very true, the most interesting people are ones who are interesting in you and life. I read How to Win Friends and Influence People a couple years ago and what a great book.

  • http://alanamokma.wordpress.com/ Alana Mokma

    I believe you. :) I have experienced this BOTH ways. I’ve experienced showing interest in another person and them turning around and being interested in me. I’ve also experienced someone showing interest in me and in turn it piques my curiosity about THEM. This is a great post – so succinct. I also appreciate that you mention how sometimes it will NOT be reciprocated – because that has happened for me too and I end up wondering if there is something wrong with me. Just because I am interested in getting to know someone else more does not mean they HAVE to reciprocate that interest. I have a long list of books to check out, but I will add Dale Carnegie’s book to my list!