…is to be interested in others.
I just saw a post on Twitter that had a headline from a magazine that went something like “10 Ways to be More Interesting to Others”.
I have to be honest, I didn’t even click on the link. I don’t need to.
If you want to become more interesting to other people, you need to first become interested in other people. Once you start putting forth the time and effort to find out about other people you will find that other people are amazingly more interested in you.
Stop. Think about it.
How many of your closest friends have spent time being interested in you? How many of them have you spent time being interested in?
Will this work in every case? Not at all. Sometimes your interest is completely unwanted (think stalker) and unreciprocated (think user). That’s just part of life (and sometimes it’s just because the other person never learned to be interested in others).
But I’m confident that the more you become interested in other people, the more you will find others are interested in you.
Don’t believe? Think I’m full of crap?
Take some time and read Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People.